Steps to Calm Ourselves Before Dealing with Children

There are moments when we embrace our children’s cuteness, innocent, smiles and laughter. We felt the joy, love and warmth for them. But, there are also moments we don’t know how to put up with their behaviors. We wonder why sometimes they do all the things which make us want to shout and be angry. In times like this, we may lose our patience and get angry easily. As human being with emotion,  it’s actually normal to feel that way. However, we really have to try hard to control our emotion and think twice before losing our control. It’s because being emotional  won’t make the situation better and children may have negative feeling as well which will lead to tantrum. And, this will be more difficult to handle. Well, it’s easy to say, but in practical it may not be as easy as it sounds.

There are steps we can do to calm ourselves at the times when it’s hard to control our emotion:

  • First step, stop for a while and not say anything to our children. Take our time to calm ourselves. Do anything which will make us calm. It can be like taking a deep breath, being silent, etc. Keep doing the thing until we feel calm. This will be good to less the possibility of we burst our anger to children.
  • Second, think of the reason why we’re angry.  It’s very important to find out why we’re being angry of a situation. Knowing the reason will make us able to think of something to deal with our feeling. This can make us calmer than with what we do at the first step. After we feel calmer and better, we will be able to think rationally. And this makes us able to think of the reason why our children do what they do or being empathetic with them. It’s important to do this because it means we look at the situation not from our side only but them as well. That way, we can make decision of how to deal with the situation which will solve the problems in a way that will balance the need of children and us.
  • Third, which is supposedly done in another time, not at the time where a situation is occurred, occasionally give ourselves me time. Take time to relax and do things we like. It’s important to do, too. It can give positive energy and make us happy. When we’re happy, we will make our children happy, too.

There  are reasons why we need to be calm and not being emotional in dealing situation with children. The reasons are:

  • When we’re angry, we may say things or make decision which may not be suitable for children’s development.
  • We are our children’s role model. If we often deal the situations angrily, children will follow what we do. This cause lots of negative feelings and these feelings can affect children’s learning process.

We wouldn’t want those to happen, would we? Therefore, keep in mind before we deal with our children, we have to deal with our emotion first. Only by doing this, we can make the best decision which will be good for our children’s development.


Playing Train Toys: A Way to Introduce Transportation to Children


One of children favorite toy, especially boys, is train toy. When they play it, they usually move the train on the track, make the train sound, and pretend to be the engineers. They can play it alone or together with others like their peers or us. If we play with them, we actually can add something more which will make the pretend play more fun and make children learn. How to do it? It’s by introducing the concept of transportation.

To do that,  firstly, we stimulate our children sense of curiosity by asking question like,”Do you know that train is one kind of transportation?” Some may say yes, some may say no. If children say yes, we can ask them whether they know what’s the meaning of transportation. They may answer the question based on their understanding. Never mind if their answer is not correct as young children, though they may have heard the word, may not know yet about the meaning of transportation. It’s our task to explain the meaning of transportation to them. Explain it in words they will understand. Let’s say that transportation is a way to move people or things from one place to another.

After that, we can ask children to do a simulation as explaining the meaning of transportation only  won’t make children grasp the concept. The simulation can be done by playing the train toy. Start with preparing the buildings and setting each buildings faraway from one another.

 TCON-201  Conductor Carl 100 Piece Wooden Train Set

Then, do the pretend play. For example, pretend a person needs to go to another place which distance is quiet far. We can ask children about how can the person go there. They may give various answers such as by foot, by car, by train, etc. After that, we can ask them to help the person by providing one way of transportation which is train. Then ask children to arrange the tracks. So the train can move and is able to transport the person to another place..

 TCON-05  100 Pieces bulk Wooden Track

When the tracks has been arranged, pretend to make the person rides on the train and he feels happy as he’s able to go the place he wants by train now. Keep doing the pretend play by creating another scenario such as visiting grandparents’ house, travelling to another city, etc.

Don’t stop with one type of scenario. Create another situations. For example, there are people who need to send packages to their friends at another city. Put some things (use print out pictures or sticker) on top of the trains. Then move the trains to another place. Pretend that the friends are happy when they receive the packages. Ask children to bring out their own ideas of situation/scenario which I’m sure they will come up with many ideas.

To do the activity above, we need to prepare the train set and the train toys. The Conductor Carl 100 Piece Bulk Train Track Pack can be an option for the train tracks. The set is made of wood which makes it durable and long lasting as wooden toys are not broken easily. So children can have it for many years and even it can be passed on to their younger brothers and sisters. It’s also safe as the track pieces are made from single piece construction, meaning there are no loose plastic pegs that could pose danger to a child.

As for the train set, Conductor Carl 100 Piece Wooden Train Set & Conductor Carl 80 Piece Wooden Train Set with Table can be the options. Both sets include Conductor Carl Engine Car, pieces of track, vehicles, people & signs, trees & houses. Therefore, we don’t need to provide another set train toys to be able to do the simulation.

That’s how the concept of transportation can be introduced to young children. It starts by explaining the meaning of transportation and giving train as one example of transportation. This will make children grasp the basic function of the train and realize the reason why the train moves from one place to another. It’s simple concept but children may not realize it before. Then continue the activity by doing the simulation through pretend play which is the fun and important part. It is the part which will make children truly absorb and grasp the concept because they experience the process of the transportation itself which begins by arranging the tracks, trying to solve people’s problem in the pretend play, solving the problems and eventually creating many situations of using the train as one kind of transportation. So, what are we waiting for? Let’s ask our children to play the train toys to understand the concept of transportation 🙂